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Old 05-19-2006, 10:00 PM
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Question question....


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Old 05-20-2006, 02:56 AM
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do you think you would mind if your roomate had a guest stay in their dorm during orientation?

i have an issue...my boyfriend is off during labor day weekend, and goes to West Point. He wants to see me as soon as he can, so he wants to stay with me during that time... (kinda my fiance...kinda....complicated..)

I want to see him then too, because I saw him off for North Carolina (his home) today, and won't see him until (possibly) labor day.

HELP!?!


Generally, the policy about guests is between the roommates.

However, I do not know if there is a different policy for orientation.

Personally, I feel that Orientation is about you meeting all the new people you're going to be spending the next four years of your life with! It's about adjusting to college life and there are A LOT of events and programs that you HAVE to go to and be involved in that he would not attend. Do not underestimate the time that you are going to be spending at orientation with your sibling family/hall/informational activities...there is a LOT that gets crammed into your few orientation days. The timed events of orientation are organized in a way that you are quite busy almost the entire day so you won't really have much of a chance to see him. I would err on the side of saying no, but again, this is just my personal opinion as to what is best for you and your roommate and your time at orientation!

If you check out Daniel's Dictionary (you will all recieve the NEW, updated ones at orientation; there are some changes that have been made to various policies from last year's copy) you will see the following...
http://depts.drew.edu/esa/handbook/d...llege_2005.pdf

[page 36, excerpts]:
"Students who wish to house a guest must have the consent of of their roommate[s]...guests may stay NO MORE THAN 72 hours (3 days) in a two week period...guests must be escorted by their host at all times...Residence Life staff reserves the right to intervene if a roommate's rights are not being observed."

Now, this shows that clearly it is up for debate, but honestly I know MANY, MANY long-distance couples who go months without seeing each other and do just fine (and YES, some where engaged, and some were not). I think that it is in YOUR best interest not to have him stay, simply because it is your orientation! You will be so busy (I cannot stress this enough!!) with meeting new people, moving in, organizing yourself (in the small amount of time you have) and getting information, that it might end up not being a worthwhile visit...not to mention this is a time to be meeting NEW people. Your boyfriend might feel slighted, and there will be times where he will be sitting in your dorm room, all by himself for hours. It's just the facts.

I think that there might even be a person or two who agrees with me on this one that have already been through the entire orientation process. But perhaps if you have any questions, after you find out what floor you are living on/what complex...contact your roommate, because ultimately it is down to the two of you. Your RA will also be a good resource. But I think that right now, it is more important for you to focus on orientation/acclimating to college life than your boyfriend. But again, (and I cannot stress this enough) this is simply my personal opinion. There will be other times you can see him, and sometimes sacrifices have to be made.
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Old 05-20-2006, 11:38 AM
Alicia E. Lutes
 
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don't worry; there's no way i could be your roommate.
and i'm not saying you can't see him at that time...

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Old 05-20-2006, 01:11 PM
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You can always go see him, can't you? I know they have a strict visitors policy, but I've definitely visited people there...


Oh yeah -- and don't forget that we have a month and a half off for Jan term!!
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Old 05-20-2006, 02:59 PM
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who are you!? you're not a freshman are you?

and i promise i didn't mean that in a mean way, I'm sorry

no i'm not. and i don't take it "in a mean way," either.

and to put things, i suppose, a bit more simply...the bottom line of what i was saying is that you are honestly not going to have all that much time to visit with him were he to stay overnight. (and personally, i think it is a bit unfair to ask your roommate day one to have someone stay over when you both are just getting to know each other & the school. but that decision is not up to me.) it is going to be a very hectic time, and perhaps i did not stress that enough, but it is. orientation throws a lot of information, activities, etc...at you all at once. that is why i feel like you having him stay over isn't going to be very satisfying as you will barely see each other--if at all--besides when you are getting ready for bed.
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Old 05-20-2006, 04:50 PM
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Alicia, are freshmen required to take a placement test at Drew? a lot of schools does that, i'm not sure if that's one of drews' requirements?
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Old 05-20-2006, 06:23 PM
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Alicia, are freshmen required to take a placement test at Drew? a lot of schools does that, i'm not sure if that's one of drews' requirements?

There are placement tests. You usually take them the day or two before you choose classes. I only took the spanish placement test, and the language placement test tends to be the one that everyone takes because of the language requirement. Depending on you may intend to major on, there may be other placement tests you either have to take or can opt to take, I'm not positive though (because for the english major, it is based more on APs & SAT IIs as to what you can opt out of, and that is only english 1 or 2, that everyone takes; research writing methods. You don't get credit for it, you just don't have to take the class). It all depends on what you have taken in high school and what requirements you may or may not be able to fufill through your aptitude.

You'll get more accurate information once orientation rolls around; the OC members know EVERYTHING about those logistics, and will let you know when you arrive!

There's also a forum on here (I believe) for the OC, so I'm sure if you had any big questions you could ask them. Hope this helps at least a little!
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Old 05-20-2006, 08:03 PM
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There are placement tests. You usually take them the day or two before you choose classes. I only took the spanish placement test, and the language placement test tends to be the one that everyone takes because of the language requirement. Depending on you may intend to major on, there may be other placement tests you either have to take or can opt to take, I'm not positive though (because for the english major, it is based more on APs & SAT IIs as to what you can opt out of, and that is only english 1 or 2, that everyone takes; research writing methods. You don't get credit for it, you just don't have to take the class). It all depends on what you have taken in high school and what requirements you may or may not be able to fufill through your aptitude.

You'll get more accurate information once orientation rolls around; the OC members know EVERYTHING about those logistics, and will let you know when you arrive!

There's also a forum on here (I believe) for the OC, so I'm sure if you had any big questions you could ask them. Hope this helps at least a little!
thank you so much. and yes it helps a lot.
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Old 05-22-2006, 08:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Raven Brockriede
do you think you would mind if your roomate had a guest stay in their dorm during orientation?

i have an issue...my boyfriend is off during labor day weekend, and goes to West Point. He wants to see me as soon as he can, so he wants to stay with me during that time... (kinda my fiance...kinda....complicated..)

I want to see him then too, because I saw him off for North Carolina (his home) today, and won't see him until (possibly) labor day.

HELP!?!

if i was a girl, and we were roomates, i would not care at all. tap that shit
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Old 05-22-2006, 12:20 PM
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i seriously snorted i was laughing so hard from this...lol


thanks for the...interesting piece of advice!

haha i try
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